You Ever Tell Your Family to Fuck Off?

[Boozer]

In the past 6 months my wife and I have had to alienate a lot of our family, including our parents. It’s actually pushing to the point that we’re about to start filing restraining orders against family members.

Anyone else go through something like this or are we just crazy?



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[02HoWaRd26]

I have two parents a sister and two brothers.
Dad: passed away a few years ago, miss him dearly.
Mother: haven’t spoke to in years life is way better that way.
Sister: last spoke to in 2002
Middle brother: talk daily, actually text him right before logging in a minute ago.
Younger brother: haven’t spoke to in 2 years

Always remember they are given, not chosen! I don’t believe blood is thicker than water!

 

[monkeyswrench]

Not to the same extent, but yes. I have my Pops' side of the family, which I haven't spoken with since he passed...gang bangers and old school cholos. Don't need the drama, or calls for bail. Same with my sister, I moved out of state and didn't even let her know what state I was headed to.

So no legal barriers, just distance in our case. My wife and kids don't need any of that drama, nor do I.

 

[Mcob25rg]

Didn't speak to my dad his last 4 years - don't regret it at all - wish i would have cut him off MUCH earlier. Family doesn't automaticaly mean love - i have personal proof of that

 

[GRADS]

Only the ones that support Trump.

 

[Singleton]

Have told my BIL and his wife to FO multiple times. I have flat out told them, your kids can spend as much time with us as possible, but you are not welcome at my house or any vacation I host.
I only see them for a week at Christmas for the family vacation my FIL and MIL coordinate. My wife keeps me boozed up and away from them as much as possible so I don’t go off on how they check out and don’t do shit for their kids!

 

[77charger]

Tried to help a cousin with a job pretty much got the back stab just got used so he could learn and go elsewhere where he wasn't wanted because of no experience.

Told him F off and rarely show up at any moms side of family as a result may see a couple uncles is about it.

 

[CJ_Donahue]

I have many times. I do it 10 seconds after hanging up the phone. Never in person.

 

[Singleton]

Only the ones that support Trump.

Somehow you missed the day in school, where people were taught you can agree to disagree.
I have multiple friends that have a different political view then me, those that agree to disagree I am still friends with. Those that think their way is the only way are long gone.

 

[CJ_Donahue]

Only the ones that support Trump.

You have a lucky family.

 

[GRADS]

Somehow you missed the day in school, where people were taught you can agree to disagree.
I have multiple friends that have a different political view then me, those that agree to disagree I am still friends with. Those that think their way is the only way are long gone.

This is similar to the way I feel.

 

[mjc]

I have one sister that told me to f' off and never talk to her again I have obliged her on this. Got pissed at her for talking our mother into sending her money that she doesn't have. No loss.

 

[cofooter]

Never got to that point, but, care to elaborate? What are they after that you feel you need a restraining order?

 

[Spudsbud]

Same as many above.

 

[Havasu blue label]

Talk to my dad only mom don't like my opinions sister and kids leave with my parents dad has cancer don't pay for shit and everybody thought I was a fuck up in my younger days fuck them

 

[Your ad here]

My grandpas SIL told him that he was dead to her for all she cared over some family business stuff. Some years later there was a family gathering were both would be there. Grandpas words were "she's going to be shocked when she sees my ghost there". Years past and things got better.
In-laws are tough, especially MIL. I don't see how some DIL or SIL hang in there or are able to restrain from doing something else.

 

[Uncle Dave]

Oh yeah - dad and I came to blows at 18 and I bailed.
Enough was enough.

UD

 

[SoCalDave]

Only when they complain about my flip flops stinking up the place...

 

[Carlson-jet]

So many of my favorite Family members have passed, I put up with some of the others just to hear a good story about my favorites once in a while.
The rest are gold and I wish I could hang out with them more but we are all spread out over the country.

 

[cakemoto]

Oh yeah - dad and I came to blows at 18 and I bailed.
Enough was enough.

UD

Same shit happen to me... my grandparents did so much for me. I miss them everyday

 

[Uncle Dave]

Same shit happen to me... my grandparents did so much for me. I miss them everyday

I understand that - mine were like parents to me.

UD

 

[was thatguy]

There are many reasons I keep 2000 miles and an ocean between me and my mom, sister and my now deceased brother.

 

[Bpracing1127]

After my dad passed a couple years ago I told my step mom to eff off. I only speak to her because the court makes me regarding his probate case.

Currently I want to tell my MiL and FiL to eff off. It’s a double edged sword tho. We are living in one of their houses and they show up unannounced and what not. Plus they bitch about everything my wife and I do. My wife will never tell them off tho

 

[Havasu blue label]

I that I was the only one with family issues

 

[81Sprint]

Told my mom to FO 9 years ago.... After she stole $25k from me. Best decision i ever made, no one needs low lifes bringing them down.

 

[81Sprint]

I understand that - mine were like parents to me.

UD

Same here, my Grandparents i refer to as my parents. always been there and my saving grace at times, even now in their 90's.

 

[Icky]

Might be more appropriate these days

 

[Deja_Vu]

I haven’t spoken to my sister or brother in a few years...like it that way. I still keep in contact my my Mother every couple of weeks. No news is good news on that front.

 

[DEEZNUTS]

Disowned a sister and her Jim Jones wannabe husband. 100% no contact with "my" family.

Life is better that way.

 

[OldSchoolBoats]

Haven't talked to my dad or brother since June.

Before that, didn't talk to my dad for a couple years. Took him having a stroke to reconnect. My brother fucked it all up again in June and now we aren't talking again.

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[Kachina26]

Only the ones that support Trump.

What about the ones that don't support him but are enjoying the shit show?

 

[rrrr]

I have an ex-brother. We started in business in 1980, six months later he jacked the 941 taxes and forms I had filled out and put in the outgoing mailbox. He used the cash to buy his wife a new Mazda RX-7. Since I had filled out the reports and wrote the hot checks, I was liable for the taxes. It took 14 years to fix, by then they said I owed over $250K in fines and penalties. I finally filed a suit against the IRS in federal court and won, erasing the debt.

Later he stole $40K to pay a bookie by taking the cashier's checks I had written to vendors and he converted. He had volunteered to mail the checks. I had to make them good.

Right after that he did two years for smuggling planeloads of pot.
I expanded the business revenues 500% while he was gone, and acquired inventory worth $1M befor he came back. We argued, a fight started. I broke his nose for the forth the me since I was 11, and split up.

Fast forward to 2005. He built a 40,000 SF plant to make sound attenuated diesel generator enclosures by borrowing $500K fromcl my dad and $1M from a bank. When he declared bankruptcy, I felt sorry for him and made a deal where he could use my $750K credit line to buy generators and data center equipment from banks that had foreclosed on them. We were supposed to split the profits.

After two years, he owed me almost $500K, and split one night after loading up valuable UPS systems and electrical gear worth $240K. He hadn't even bought a roll of fucking toilet paper to contribute to expenses. We got in a fight, and I broke his nose for the fifth time since I was 11 years old.

I haven't spoken to him in almost 10 years, which is fine with me. My siblings act as if nothing happened and are happy to interact with him and ignore me.

This has turned out good for me. I don't want to talk to any of them anyway, so there's that.

More recently I loaned my 34 year old son a credit card because he had to get new tires to keep Ubering and his was gonna get a $15K grant for the spring semester so paying me wouldn't be a problem.

When I got the card back, he had juiced it for $3400. He swore he would pay me when the grant came in. That didn't happen.

Six weeks later he traded in the Honda van I had just bought tires for and got a new Kia Soul.

Three AM next day I sent him a text telling him to fuck off, lose my phone number, and stay away from my house. That was six months ago, and I'm much happier because I'm not doling out money to him any more. I've fixed his cars, paid payday loans, bought school books, all sorts of shit totaling tens of thousands over his adult life. Now I'm done.

I've managed to alienate five siblings and my son, and I like it that way.

 

[TITTIES AND BEER]

2 sisters and 1 brother they can all go FUCK there selfs bunch of greedy fucks

 

[Nordie]

Mine has been hit and miss, my brother and I took a 2 year break, we finally made good. Now we're best friends again which is good. I didn't talk to my dad for 4 years, as he got himself in a little trouble and left me to pick up the pieces. It cost me thousands of dollars, and a ton of sleepless nights. We're okay now, but don't talk all that much. Now my mom and stepdad, they're cut out of my life and I am pretty sure that one is for good. We all usually get together for the holidays, and I told my wife we should start our own tradition.

 

[TITTIES AND BEER]

Told my mom to FO 9 years ago.... After she stole $25k from me. Best decision i ever made, no one needs low lifes bringing them down.

My kid got us for 15 K +

 

[CarolynandBob]

Dad- haven't spoken to since 95
Mon- haven't spoken to since 96
Brother - i think it was 2003
Sister - about 2005
Other sister - about 99
Other 2 brothers talk to weekly

 

[941Punk]

My side of the family has always been fucked up. Drugs, poverty, etc. I'm the only one that ever got out and made something of myself. After years of dealing with them, sending money and sometimes cars, I decided one day to never speak to these people again.

I left each and every person a "fuck off" email / voicemail to never contact me again.. Let me tell you, it's been a quiet 4 years and I have no regrets!!

My wife's side are a wonderful set of people I would do anything for, so I'm good family wise.

 

[welldigger00]

I learned the hard way about never do business with family. It never works out. I am on talking terms again with my two brothers, but after many years.


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[shreve"T"]

WOW !! Here I thought I was the only one with FUCK UP family issues, I really don't feel that bad after ready all these post.. As much as I love my father, its best we have 1700 miles between us.. TOXIC man who has never left his past and allowed it to destroy our family..

SAD deal but like many of you has stated, we are better off

 

[DLow]

Didn't speak to my dad his last 4 years - don't regret it at all - wish i would have cut him off MUCH earlier. Family doesn't automaticaly mean love - i have personal proof of that

You aren’t alone. That’s my situation almost exactly. I’m still waiting for him to die though. The world will be a better place when he is gone.

 

[LowRiver2]

My birth Mom
Found her 6 years ago
Somehow she bought into my Ex’s BS and started visiting her to see my kids.
Done....told her thanks for leaving her only kid twice,
Lol, blood doesn’t count for anything, trust me
Learned why I’m cold, lol, chip off that bitch

 

[BONER]

Some fucked up Families in here. I must've gotten super lucky. My Family means everything to me and it would take an Act of God for me to turn my back on em.

 

[76 Hondo]

My life is a lot better, now that I am an orphan and an a only child, even though there are 2 females in another state that could be sisters!

 

[FROGMAN524]

My In laws are the most pathetic and dramatic people I’ve ever met. Wife still talks to and sees them weekly despite their own differences but I haven’t spoken to them in 19 months and life is good that way. Only downer is I miss my nephews and niece but their parents and grand parents are unbearable.


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[DLow]

Some fucked up Families in here. I must've gotten super lucky. My Family means everything to me and it would take an Act of God for me to turn my back on em.

My wife and kids mean absolutely everything to me too. But there is a difference between turning your back, and leaving a situation of outright mental and/or physical abuse.

 

[hallett21]

@RiverDave you’re missing an advertising goldmine with a family therapist lol.


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[LowRiver2]

@RiverDave you’re missing an advertising goldmine with a family therapist lol.


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More like a family Octagon
Fuck talking , ass kicking consent forms please

 

[Rajobigguy]

I have plenty of reasons to severe relations with a few family members but life is to short to bear grudges so I just keep those few at an arms length and go on about enjoying my life.

 

[BONER]

My wife and kids mean absolutely everything to me too. But there is a difference between turning your back, and leaving a situation of outright mental and/or physical abuse.

I 100% understand Family blow ups, and or most circumstances resulting in Life long seperation. That's why I said I got lucky. We just don't let things get us sideways enough to want to say, you're fired. On the flip side to that, we respect and love eachother enough, not to do something to one another that would lead to that result as well.

Like I said, I'm a lucky Sumbitch!

 

[was thatguy]

I have an ex-brother. We started in business in 1980, six months later he jacked the 941 taxes and forms I had filled out and put in the outgoing mailbox. He used the cash to buy his wife a new Mazda RX-7. Since I had filled out the reports and wrote the hot checks, I was liable for the taxes. It took 14 years to fix, by then they said I owed over $250K in fines and penalties. I finally filed a suit against the IRS in federal court and won, erasing the debt.

Later he stole $40K to pay a bookie by taking the cashier's checks I had written to vendors and he converted. He had volunteered to mail the checks. I had to make them good.

Right after that he did two years for smuggling planeloads of pot.
I expanded the business revenues 500% while he was gone, and acquired inventory worth $1M befor he came back. We argued, a fight started. I broke his nose for the forth the me since I was 11, and split up.

Fast forward to 2005. He built a 40,000 SF plant to make sound attenuated diesel generator enclosures by borrowing $500K fromcl my dad and $1M from a bank. When he declared bankruptcy, I felt sorry for him and made a deal where he could use my $750K credit line to buy generators and data center equipment from banks that had foreclosed on them. We were supposed to split the profits.

After two years, he owed me almost $500K, and split one night after loading up valuable UPS systems and electrical gear worth $240K. He hadn't even bought a roll of fucking toilet paper to contribute to expenses. We got in a fight, and I broke his nose for the fifth time since I was 11 years old.

I haven't spoken to him in almost 10 years, which is fine with me. My siblings act as if nothing happened and are happy to interact with him and ignore me.

This has turned out good for me. I don't want to talk to any of them anyway, so there's that.

More recently I loaned my 34 year old son a credit card because he had to get new tires to keep Ubering and his was gonna get a $15K grant for the spring semester so paying me wouldn't be a problem.

When I got the card back, he had juiced it for $3400. He swore he would pay me when the grant came in. That didn't happen.

Six weeks later he traded in the Honda van I had just bought tires for and got a new Kia Soul.

Three AM next day I sent him a text telling him to fuck off, lose my phone number, and stay away from my house. That was six months ago, and I'm much happier because I'm not doling out money to him any more. I've fixed his cars, paid payday loans, bought school books, all sorts of shit totaling tens of thousands over his adult life. Now I'm done.

I've managed to alienate five siblings and my son, and I like it that way.

Similar here but at much lower dollar amounts.

Most recently I just repoed my 2014 Camry (Debs car) from my oldest daughter.
Was going to basically give it to her for $5000 (less than half of book).
All she had to do was sell her old Tahoe and give me $2K of that, then sell here ‘05 Highlander and give me $3K of that.

She had the car for 2 months, which was fine with me because it kept my step son from stealing it while I was at work.
She sold the Tahoe. Got almost 3 grand.
I had to “remind” her of our deal 3 days after she sold it and never told me she sold it. She gave me a grand...
Said that I cost her a weeks pay by taking her and the grandsons to Alaska this summer and she needed the money. (A trip that cost me $10K, but was happy to do it for the grandsons)

“Ok...but I want $4K when you sell the highlander, or all of it if it’s less than $4K”

She said OK and then did nothing for 4 weeks to sell the vehicle.
So I told her I’m taking the Camry back. She was pissed. Said she never would have sold her Tahoe if she knew I was taking the car back. Told her I’m taking it because she was much more interested in driving my car than owning my car.
So I took it and gave her back the grand...All this after I had laid out another thousand to make the Highlander safe to sell. (Brakes all around, etc)

So loaning her my car cost me a thousand cash, $350 in plane ticket to go get it, almost $100 for uber to her apartment from Sac airport, (she couldn’t be bothered to pick me up)

This may all sound trivial to some, but she’s 37 years old. This is how it ALWAYS goes with her. She’s far too busy facebooking from the local Starbucks about how hard it is being a single mom, and reveling in praise from her so called friends about how strong she is to raise two kids.

I would have gladly eaten the loss and gave her the car if she’d only tried even a little bit. But it pissed me off when she back burnered the deal while driving the car daily. Then wanted extra money for her troubles because it’s now my fault she doesn’t own her Tahoe anymore.

Like I posted before, I’ll save a fortune now that all my kids hate me!
I’m good with that, Grandkids are cheaper and more fun anyway!