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Anyone have a wife that had post Pardam?
Wife is showing little to no interest in taking care of baby such as holding him or even feeding or changing him can anyone else chime in on this
Bummer. Hopefully it is only a phase.
 

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I agree. Specially on the first to have those feelings right away..... something is off. It COULD be the meds she's on too though. The meds can do some funky shit when the body is trying to recover something something major like having a kid.
 

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Just read the thread
Wow ! Up and downs , kind of like life
Hang in there .
Good luck
 

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Anyone have a wife that had post Pardam?
Wife is showing little to no interest in taking care of baby such as holding him or even feeding or changing him can anyone else chime in on this

Hormones can do crazy shit after pregnancy.. hopefully that changes and quick.

I truly believe the early times of birth are fundamental to the long term development of the child.

Not sure if you guys did anything with the placenta? Some people have them dried and capsulated so the mom can take the pills. Supposedly it helps with this
 

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Hormones can do crazy shit after pregnancy.. hopefully that changes and quick.

I truly believe the early times of birth are fundamental to the long term development of the child.

Not sure if you guys did anything with the placenta? Some people have them dried and capsulated so the mom can take the pills. Supposedly it helps with this
The pills were moms plans but nothing has gone right with this birth she didn’t get to have that Immediate contact with him after her was born because they took him right away and then they messed up her placenta in the OR stitching her up then now she can’t breast feed because of the meds she is on
 

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Talk to your Doctor regarding “Lithium Deficiency”. Seems your Doctors should be concerned regarding your wife well being right now,today.
 

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The pills were moms plans but nothing has gone right with this birth she didn’t get to have that Immediate contact with him after her was born because they took him right away and then they messed up her placenta in the OR stitching her up then now she can’t breast feed because of the meds she is on
I'm sure you guys know this but if she does want to breastfeed is she doing pump and dump so her supply doesn't dry up? My wife had to do this in the hospital after she had to be readmitted. Her supply never dropped and our baby easily went back to breastmilk after being on formula for a day or so
 

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I'm sure you guys know this but if she does want to breastfeed is she doing pump and dump so her supply doesn't dry up? My wife had to do this in the hospital after she had to be readmitted. Her supply never dropped and our baby easily went back to breastmilk after being on formula for a day or so
She can not Breast feed with the medication she is on this will most likely be a lifetime medication because of kaisers fuck up how dose pumping and dumping allow this?
 

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Postpartum can be a REAL BIG DEAL. Just saying. My sister told me about what thoughts went thru her head and it was not good. Doc took care of it with Meds. She’s good now but was on meds for years. Hormones are tricky. Best of luck Brutha. Congratulations on the new addition
 

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She can not Breast feed with the medication she is on this will most likely be a lifetime medication because of kaisers fuck up how dose pumping and dumping allow this?
I did not know it was a lifetime med. If it was just a few days she could pump and dump until 24 hours after her last med and then the milk would be safe for the baby. I'm sorry to hear about this. Prayers for you and your family
 

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Sorry to hear the difficulties with your first :(

On a positive note, When are the @BIGRED9158 and @rivergames babies going to get together for their RDP santa photoshoot?!
 

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Your baby journey has started out pretty rough. Give yourself and your wife that grace.
Get her to a dr asap. Tell them everything, even if she won't/can't. She will come around.
Give that little lots of love! And take care of mom!
 

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@BIGRED9158 checking in to see if you g you guys got a hold of OB
Wife is in with the dr right now as we speak again with having Kaiser and apparently covid still being an issue I can’t go in the past couple days I have been stepping back and kinda letting her figure out taking care of the baby on here own and she has been doing good so far she is still going to talk to the Dr today about some of the concerns I had
 

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Wife is in with the dr right now as we speak again with having Kaiser and apparently covid still being an issue I can’t go in the past couple days I have been stepping back and kinda letting her figure out taking care of the baby on here own and she has been doing good so far she is still going to talk to the Dr today about some of the concerns I had
Glad to hear she’s seeing the doctor.

Just remember that the Covid protocols etc only reach so far. If you have a concern that needs to be heard it might be uncomfortable but push until someone listens.

Don’t be a YouTube sensation but make it apparent that you need to be present if you feel it’s necessary. I don’t mean to say your wife is not capable of doing this on her own. Just trying to re affirm that you still have a say/are a part in this 👍🏻👍🏻
 

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Wife is in with the dr right now as we speak again with having Kaiser and apparently covid still being an issue I can’t go in the past couple days I have been stepping back and kinda letting her figure out taking care of the baby on here own and she has been doing good so far she is still going to talk to the Dr today about some of the concerns I had
You should have pushed to be in there, the Dr. needs to hear from you as well and ask you questions directly about your observations
 

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my wife went through postpartum, i know how stressful and helpless it feels. I lost more sleep along her side then the babies.

Your wife will get past it 🙏 give her time and get her the help she feels she needs. None of it will make sense to you. group meetings helped and I would take her to get massages and calming teas. She took the meds prescribed only twice due to the fear of being stuck with them. We are on our third kid and thankfuly it only happened with the first born
 

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Little update for everyone baby is doing great. His shoulder is all healed up from being broken and lungs are healthy. Mom is doing an amazing job of taking care of him and mental health is a lot better!! Mom wanted me to thank all you guys again for the prayers!!
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X3 on the shoulder. So pleased to hear that Mom and Son are doing well. Hope that is a great Christmas to all!!!!
 

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little munchkin!!! Nom, Nom, Nom!! Glad to hear everyone is on the mend!
 

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Yeah they broke his shoulder when they yanked him out another thing that I am having a hard time wrapping my head around is we never had a dr in the delivery room anyone else have this experience
 

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Yeah they broke his shoulder when they yanked him out another thing that I am having a hard time wrapping my head around is we never had a dr in the delivery room anyone else have this experience

Shoulder? No.

No doctor? Yes.

Both of my kids just had the nurses present. I had the charge nurse kick out the ones I didn't like! 😁
 

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Little update for everyone baby is doing great. His shoulder is all healed up from being broken and lungs are healthy. Mom is doing an amazing job of taking care of him and mental health is a lot better!! Mom wanted me to thank all you guys again for the prayers!! View attachment 1180680 View attachment 1180681
beautiful. You guys are set for a great Christmas. All you need to do is sit in front of a Christmas tree with that little guy and enjoy life.
 

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Yeah they broke his shoulder when they yanked him out another thing that I am having a hard time wrapping my head around is we never had a dr in the delivery room anyone else have this experience
They broke my sons clavicle when he was coming out as well. He was 9.7 and he came fast. @ONE-A-DAY’s wife Laurie worked in labor and delivery and told me it’s common practice if the baby is coming fast. I’m not a dr and I blocked that experience out for the most part. I believe she said the nurse or dr will do it to avoid further complications. Daniel healed up quick and never had any issues after. He’s 10 years old now.
 
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