Boys have penis'. Girls have vaginas.

[Constant840]

I've sought the opinions of the RDP brain trust for years now. Marriage advice. Vasectomy advice. Pet advice. Maybe boating related advice once?

Any way. My daughter is 8 going on 18 and is asking more and more consistently where babies come from. She asked again at the dinner table the other night. I'm not one to sugar coat and figured wtf, let’s do this. Better me that some lame ass teacher’s aide. Which I'm sure is coming soon.
I opened with boys have penis' and girls have vaginas. That’s about as far as I got before my wife shut it down.


So. Knowing there are a ton of parents whom participate in this RDP experiment. I ask... How do you have an effective birds and bees talk, with a daughter, without setting her up for years of therapy?

 

[Joker]

Our daughter caught us having sex when she was around 10. She's still haunted by that sight but we got the talk over that morning. Best of luck to you and in no way do I advise you to go our route.

 

[Hullbilly]

I've sought the opinions of the RDP brain trust for years now. Marriage advice. Vasectomy advice. Pet advice. Maybe boating related advice once?

Any way. My daughter is 8 going on 18 and is asking more and more consistently where babies come from. She asked again at the dinner table the other night. I'm not one to sugar coat and figured wtf, let’s do this. Better me that some lame ass teacher’s aide. Which I'm sure is coming soon.
I opened with boys have penis' and girls have vaginas. That’s about as far as I got before my wife shut it down.


So. Knowing there are a ton of parents whom participate in this RDP experiment. I ask... How do you have an effective birds and bees talk, with a daughter, without setting her up for years of therapy?

When you find the solution post it up please, my daughter is 6.....so it won’t be long. But I have a sneaking suspicion with the way my boys talk they’ll be the one’s to let the cat out of the bag!

 

[Rattle Can Lou]

I had boys...that's how I solved that...

 

[KENDOG689]

Baby's come from the hospital and get your nuts cut if you don't want more.

 

[DrunkenSailor]

My son has begun playing with his junk while sitting around watching tv. I’ve begun telling him if he doesn’t knock it off it’s gonna fall off. I’m not ready for any of this especially not with my daughter. I’m hoping I have some time she is about to turn five but I will be watching this thread.

 

[JD D05]

I have a 15 year old and a 10 year old. The 15 year old has been through all the classes and stuff and we gave her the very basics around the time she started Jr High. With the 10 year old same plan, she does ask about it but we put it off until she is older. But my wife handled it.

 

[SoCalDave]

I let me Wife handle my daughters curiosity. I would step on my dick like you if I tried splainin it to her.

 

[Rbcconst]

If she goes to public school then she will hear some things you will have to google. My daughter was about 12 before the real serious questions needed to be asked. Now that she is 14 It’s time to re discuss and load guns!


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[Hullbilly]

I had boys...that's how I solved that...

Yeah I slammed the trigger on one, the rest were in the 5 ring

 

[dribble]

Finish the Boys have penis thing with moms and dads do special cuddling and that cuddling can sometimes make a baby.

 

[2Driver]

Don't waste too much time, or she will get her information from the public school system and they will tell her to doubt her gender.

IMO. If she is only 6 start easy. Just turn on the NatGeo channel and watch a few nature shows together, eventully everything on those shows ends up humping and giving birth. See the pattern: boy-girl, humping, sperm-egg = baby. Now just parlay off that as humans are no different, hold your breath and go for it from a science stand point with a soft landing.

After the science part is done, explain the rules of the road and morals part of it according to how you want it to be addressed. I bet she'll be more apt to come to you for answers later if you are invloved now.

 

[coolchange]

There are a lot of books available geared to the age of the person you're trying to explain it to.

 

[Rajobigguy]

At 8 yrs old I would take a very conservative approach. Tell her that when a man and a women love each other they get married and after they have made a home for their family and are ready for children that they hug each other in a special way, during that special hug the man gives the mom a seed which she grows inside of her and after nine months the baby is ready to come out.
That should be enough info to satisfy her curiosity.

 

[WhatExit?]

Unfortunately it's not the birds-&-the-bees talk that's most difficult - it's the pedophile, sick fawker in a van offering your kids candy or saying they were sent by you to pick them up, etc.

And if you wait too long they'll have learned everything from the internet and/or the pedophile's kids in school as they act out their aggressions for being molested by their father/grandfather/uncle

 

[707dog]

arrrg my daughters 9 and i know the time is now to have that talk as these kids are way head of the game thru the garbage music social media and youtube shit. id much rather be the influence and voice my daughter hears it from than some rapper g-string wearing with pink and green braids named dj mc lil door knob.

 

[SBMech]

No kids but plenty of friends with kids and 3 nieces. Go the science route IMO, the "special hug" shit will just make them curious. Better they learn from you than olther kids or the fucked up school (indoctrination) system that exists now.

 

[Mototrig]

The other day my 11 year old daughter was in the passenger seat of my truck.....we began to drive down the street and about 6 or 7 houses down my daughter says "sorry I was late getting in the truck. Mommy and I were talking about my PERIOD!!!" Dam near totalled my truck as I jerked the wheel in COMPLETE surprise. She says "oh is that a big deal?" I responded in a horse crackled voice "n-no"......I wasn't ready for that one.

 

[DC-88]

Keep the communication as open and often as possible. We had boys and did well with it but I know from all our friends with younger girls and boys living in the current tablet "i" era, and even my own by the time they were teens, that porn hub etc fills in all the communication gaps real quick for the young masses and especially the younger brothers ---

 

[wsuwrhr]

Subscribed. At 5 and 7 I am not far off and the inquisitive questions have come. So far so good in the thread.

 

[welldigger00]

Just wait. Mine are 16/18. We had to sign a letter that the school sent home on how they were going to teach about gay and lesbian sex, and how it all works. Needless to say, we did not sign the approval letter, and we called the principal and said our kid would not be at school that day.


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[JD D05]

Just wait. Mine are 16/18. We had to sign a letter that the school sent home on how they were going to teach about gay and lesbian sex, and how it all works. Needless to say, we did not sign the approval letter, and we called the principal and said our kid would not be at school that day.


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I went back and forth on that one myself. I ended up asking my daughter a few questions etc and she already knew all about it. But I have never avoided any of that. Plus they do comp cheer with gay dudes all over the place. I felt it would have been worse if she was one of the kids not there...who knows

 

[musicFunsun]

All I can say is be honest when answering the questions. I think the loving, married couple explanation is the best route.
I was very innocent, mom focused on the “period” part. When I was maybe 11 or 12 my cousin and I got in a fight cuz she told me how babies come out and from where . I absolutely could not believe it!! Can’t remember who I finally ask but it took me a while wrap my head around that concept

 

[rivrrts429]

When I was maybe 11 or 12 my cousin and I got in a fight cuz she told me how babies come out and from where . I absolutely could not believe it!! Can’t remember who I finally ask but it took me a while wrap my head around that concept

I’m 39 and have seen it happen twice with my own children and still can’t wrap my head around that concept lol

 

[Ouderkirk]

I've sought the opinions of the RDP brain trust for years now. Marriage advice. Vasectomy advice. Pet advice. Maybe boating related advice once?

Any way. My daughter is 8 going on 18 and is asking more and more consistently where babies come from. She asked again at the dinner table the other night. I'm not one to sugar coat and figured wtf, let’s do this. Better me that some lame ass teacher’s aide. Which I'm sure is coming soon.
I opened with boys have penis' and girls have vaginas. That’s about as far as I got before my wife shut it down.


So. Knowing there are a ton of parents whom participate in this RDP experiment. I ask... How do you have an effective birds and bees talk, with a daughter, without setting her up for years of therapy?

8 is a little early for a detailed explanation...round peg, into such and such hole is not a good plan at that age.

With my kids we sort of did it in stages and they are now fully aware that they are from myself and my wife. It took two years to get there in digestable components that made sense to them without going the full-monty at one time.

 

[Lumpy]

Good Luck

 

[spectra3279]

Just put any porn on and that's how they are made.

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[DrunkenSailor]

Just wait. Mine are 16/18. We had to sign a letter that the school sent home on how they were going to teach about gay and lesbian sex, and how it all works. Needless to say, we did not sign the approval letter, and we called the principal and said our kid would not be at school that day.


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Not surprised that this is happening but damn.... That's a whole thing that I don't want my kids learning at school. Not a bigot and if my son told me he was gay i wouldn't disown him or anything but that doesn't mean I want his pe teacher telling how to bend a dude over.

 

[JD D05]

Not surprised that this is happening but damn.... That's a whole thing that I don't want my kids learning at school. Not a bigot and if my son told me he was gay i wouldn't disown him or anything but that doesn't mean I want his pe teacher telling how to bend a dude over.

I agree man I had a hard time signing off on it myself. I doubt they get any where near graphic. But it is so out there these days it is impossible to avoid. When I threatened not signing it my daughter pretty much freaked out and it gave me the impression the alternative was putting her is a worse situation. Like I said though who knows.

 

[Kailuaboy89]

Not here to sidetrack, I have a 21 year old, a 16 year old and now adopted my GF's 9 and 7 year old......ALL GIRLS....yep oh fuckin joy to be me...
and with that stated, I learned with the 2 oldest ones, to be in contact, A LOT, and just study their behavior, and above all keep an eye on the boys, because I myself being one, know exactly what most of them sick little monkeys are thinking about. and I ask a lot of questions, have always been involved in their lives, and always willing to take the time to talk, listen and answer questions. you have to be involved, and if you have a wife/mother of the children, that is involved, and on the program, then you are lucky. My ex, aka mother of my children has never been involved worth a shit, and my GFs kids sperm donor was never involved in their life, and has been in and out of drug rehab/prison the whole time they have been alive, and I am the only dad/father figure they know, so I have my hands full but wouldn't have it any other way. so, my only really good advice is to be aware, Listen, but don't smother them to the point of wanting to hide things from you, and most of all talk to them, be involved, and offer sound advice, even if you might be a bit of a broken record....

 

[SoCalDave]

Not here to sidetrack, I have a 21 year old, a 16 year old and now adopted my GF's 9 and 7 year old......ALL GIRLS....yep oh fuckin joy to be me...
and with that stated, I learned with the 2 oldest ones, to be in contact, A LOT, and just study their behavior, and above all keep an eye on the boys, because I myself being one, know exactly what most of them sick little monkeys are thinking about. and I ask a lot of questions, have always been involved in their lives, and always willing to take the time to talk, listen and answer questions. you have to be involved, and if you have a wife/mother of the children, that is involved, and on the program, then you are lucky. My ex, aka mother of my children has never been involved worth a shit, and my GFs kids sperm donor was never involved in their life, and has been in and out of drug rehab/prison the whole time they have been alive, and I am the only dad/father figure they know, so I have my hands full but wouldn't have it any other way. so, my only really good advice is to be aware, Listen, but don't smother them to the point of wanting to hide things from you, and most of all talk to them, be involved, and offer sound advice, even if you might be a bit of a broken record....

Well said Dad!

 

[Kailuaboy89]

Well said Dad!

Thanks brotha...Im trying to do the best I can everyday, and its always a challenge, but so far my oldest 2 are turning out ok, and seem to have a good sense of self-respect. it makes me feel proud, and maybe just maybe, I am making a difference in their lives..

 

[Kailuaboy89]

And yea.....the "where do babies come from" question is sometimes tough to tackle, but sometimes answering the question with a question first is a good starting point. Like, "where do you think they come from"? the answer you get may sometimes surprise you, maybe even make you laugh, but also gives you a little insight to where they are at or coming from. some children mature faster, and you may be surprised what they have learned on their own, or from "other" sources....believe me, public schools can really fuck shit up lol!

 

[wsuwrhr]

I have said it before, this site is the best. We can take a pretty serious subject and break it down pretty good from multiple viewpoints of peeps who "have been there." I dig it.

So for that, I say, Thank You Peeps.

Brian

 

[lebel409]

Sometimes it's a real question and sometimes it's to watch you squirm...and they know the difference.

Books are a good way to have your thoughts organized and have graphics that helps you not to say something that you then have to backpedal or explain.

I'd ask why she wants to know? Has anyone touched her? Talk through the no means no thing, men can be pigs and dad has a shotgun, and self defense if anyone trys anything...scream, eyes and nuts, run.

Regarding the Grads issue, we didn't have a specific talk about gays, but in Junior High a friend of my daughters made a transition to male (ish), several girls were openly les, and she was fiercely protective of them. She made it clear where she stood way before we could have a "talk".

 

[Mandelon]

I told mine babies come from Pennsylvania.

 

[TPC]

Wife being European, and being a nurse to her this is nothing to be bashful about.
It's all out in the open. Kids knew about reproduction since their age of reason and understanding.

At the Thanksgiving dinner table one of our girls at 11 complained of cramps.
My crazy mom, her grandmother remarked; "You need to have a good orgasm to cure it."

I think Maynard was about 9 and we were camped outside Yellowstone's West Gate.
A Caribbean Blue, warm creek flowed past our RV,
The campground manager rolled up to our RV in a golf cart, dipped his cheeseburger in his coke, then took a bite and with a mouth full of food he told us "112 Campsites, you're [we're] the only Americans."

Later there was a knock on the RV screen door and four 9 year old Dutch Girls dressed in sun dresses holding towels and sandals asked in Pigeon (pidgen) English if Maynard "could swim in the river with them."

Maynard put on his super thin swim shirt and baggy trunks and headed to the river with the girls.
Maynard jumped in, then the girls on the shore took off their sun dresses and had nothing on underneath, waded in and swam toward him bare assed naked.
Maynard quietly headed to shore, walked back to the RV, embarrassed.
His mom explained that in their culture, it's normal.

Maynard said that's not the reason. What disturbed him was the dad had a gigantic dick that looked like a dead anteater and huge balls like decayed fruit.

 

[Mandelon]

LMAO, Poor kid!

 

[TPC]

Not being bashful and out in the open doesn't mean porn on TV in front of the kids or open nudity around the house or our bedroom door open or unlocked when laying pipe.

We had the Beach family living next door. Rocky, Sandy, Windy and Stormy.
They never closed the bathroom double doors that were wide open to the family room.

Dad Rocky would sit on the shitter with a smile, his eyes rolling around in pleasure while he passed his mud for everyone to witness.
The whole family, Sandy, Windy and Stormy were girls, would walk around nude headed to and from the shower.
No BFD to them.

We were out in St Anthony dunes with our 14 year old Swiss nieces for the total eclipse.
A young couple came up to our RV and asked if the girls would be in their dune wedding.
Another RV guy was playing his guitar and they asked him to be the orchestra.
Another family with a smoker cooked their food.

Anyway, the girls put on makeup, slit dresses, black bras and tops open in the front. 14 years old. That doesn't fly with me.
Wife had them change their tops to closed in front but still pretty sexy for 14. But that's how they roll in Switzerland. With a tune up they barely passed. Pun intended.
The girls wanted to look good because wedding pictures are forever.
"We wear bikinis and nothing is said then we wear more cloths and it's not OK?
Just like that I defaulted to asshole status.

NASA rep (wearing hat) offered to let the girls look through gas filled telescopes during the eclipse. Pretty cool.

 

[QC22]

My son has begun playing with his junk while sitting around watching tv.

Considering some are looking for advice here, depending on his age, this is only OK if he's alone...

 

[Constant840]

You guys are great! I knew I'd get some laughs and true gems. Without fail you came through.

It sounds like I was on the right track. I ultimately only intended to explain it purely as a physical function. Essentially, when a man’s penis and woman’s vagina come together it creates the opportunity for pregnancy. Vague, but basically true and a good foundation to build one over the next year or so. Adding a bit more detail every time. Nudity in our house isn't a big deal. Now sexuality is different. I'm unsure if it’s the conservative programming we get in the US regarding sex and sexuality. Or if it’s the fact I have a daughter instead of a son. For some reason I have it in my head it would be easier to explain these things to a boy. Somehow less damaging if not presented correctly. She definitely is exploring her own body. I've had to tell her multiple times to go wash her hands and find somewhere private. So far that’s as far I can bring myself to go with it.

My daughter is sharp. She'll know bullshit if she hears it. The last thing I want to do is spin some tale and for her to find out I'm full of it. Then have her question everything else I've told her. I'd also like to introduce things like this on our terms. She went away to camp for a week this summer and who knows what she learned there. She is sensitive and very demure, which makes it difficult for her to even repeat things she might find embarrassing. That means I've got tread lightly to keep our rapport open. All the more reason I'd like to arm her with knowledge now.

A little back ground. My wife and I have what I like to think of as a strong marriage. We've been together since just after high school. We are involved, open and understanding. Our 8 year old is our only child. She holds my hand, gives me kisses and tells me I'm the best papa in the world. She is my entire world. I just don't want to fuck it up.

 

[DaveC]

Easy. Tell em boys are icky and you shouldn’t touch them. Ever. Otherwise you will get cooties

That should buy you a couple years

Good luck

 

[rivermobster]

You guys are great! I knew I'd get some laughs and true gems. Without fail you came through.

It sounds like I was on the right track. I ultimately only intended to explain it purely as a physical function. Essentially, when a man’s penis and woman’s vagina come together it creates the opportunity for pregnancy. Vague, but basically true and a good foundation to build one over the next year or so. Adding a bit more detail every time. Nudity in our house isn't a big deal. Now sexuality is different. I'm unsure if it’s the conservative programming we get in the US regarding sex and sexuality. Or if it’s the fact I have a daughter instead of a son. For some reason I have it in my head it would be easier to explain these things to a boy. Somehow less damaging if not presented correctly. She definitely is exploring her own body. I've had to tell her multiple times to go wash her hands and find somewhere private. So far that’s as far I can bring myself to go with it.

My daughter is sharp. She'll know bullshit if she hears it. The last thing I want to do is spin some tale and for her to find out I'm full of it. Then have her question everything else I've told her. I'd also like to introduce things like this on our terms. She went away to camp for a week this summer and who knows what she learned there. She is sensitive and very demure, which makes it difficult for her to even repeat things she might find embarrassing. That means I've got tread lightly to keep our rapport open. All the more reason I'd like to arm her with knowledge now.

A little back ground. My wife and I have what I like to think of as a strong marriage. We've been together since just after high school. We are involved, open and understanding. Our 8 year old is our only child. She holds my hand, gives me kisses and tells me I'm the best papa in the world. She is my entire world. I just don't want to fuck it up.

That's awesome.

I used to listen to Focus on the Family and the one thing that Always stuck in my head was...

What kids want most is your love.

Not fancy cars, toys or any of that keep up with the Jones BS. Spend time with them and love them to death. That's what truly matters in this YOLO world.

Let mom handle the sex stuff...

You teach her how to shoot and ride quads! And teach her how to use a wrench and a screwdriver as well. You know, dad stuff.

 

[DrunkenSailor]

Considering some are looking for advice here, depending on his age, this is only OK if he's alone...

Its just a constant hand on his junk. Not like he is whacking off. I think its a whats this thing, hey that feels good. Hes not even doing it and thinking about it. I'm just trying to make sure he doesn't walk around with his hand down his pants all day.

 

[DrunkenSailor]

You guys are great! I knew I'd get some laughs and true gems. Without fail you came through.

It sounds like I was on the right track. I ultimately only intended to explain it purely as a physical function. Essentially, when a man’s penis and woman’s vagina come together it creates the opportunity for pregnancy. Vague, but basically true and a good foundation to build one over the next year or so. Adding a bit more detail every time. Nudity in our house isn't a big deal. Now sexuality is different. I'm unsure if it’s the conservative programming we get in the US regarding sex and sexuality. Or if it’s the fact I have a daughter instead of a son. For some reason I have it in my head it would be easier to explain these things to a boy. Somehow less damaging if not presented correctly. She definitely is exploring her own body. I've had to tell her multiple times to go wash her hands and find somewhere private. So far that’s as far I can bring myself to go with it.

My daughter is sharp. She'll know bullshit if she hears it. The last thing I want to do is spin some tale and for her to find out I'm full of it. Then have her question everything else I've told her. I'd also like to introduce things like this on our terms. She went away to camp for a week this summer and who knows what she learned there. She is sensitive and very demure, which makes it difficult for her to even repeat things she might find embarrassing. That means I've got tread lightly to keep our rapport open. All the more reason I'd like to arm her with knowledge now.

A little back ground. My wife and I have what I like to think of as a strong marriage. We've been together since just after high school. We are involved, open and understanding. Our 8 year old is our only child. She holds my hand, gives me kisses and tells me I'm the best papa in the world. She is my entire world. I just don't want to fuck it up.

Sounds like you are doing great. Trust me we are all terrified as fathers of little girls because we were all once teenage boys. Being there is number 1. Not being a douche is number 2. I am still a few years away from anything serious but my 4 year old daughter says things like "I am going to kiss all the boys" and my heart stops and I involuntarily reach for my shotgun. I know its all innocent at this stage but I am still terrified. All it takes is one look, one hug, one "I love you dad" and everything else melts away. This parenting thing is hard. I really just want to make sure I don't let the next few years slip through my fingers because I know I am never getting them back.

 

[Hullbilly]

Its just a constant hand on his junk. Not like he is whacking off. I think its a whats this thing, hey that feels good. Hes not even doing it and thinking about it. I'm just trying to make sure he doesn't walk around with his hand down his pants all day.

Maybe he’s going to be a rapper! Big money dad

 

[Jed-O]

While I might not be a dad at the moment (was a step dad at one point). You guys with Netflix have to see this show! It's called "Big Mouth" .animated, seriously fucked up and hilarious!

 

[DrunkenSailor]

While I might not be a dad at the moment (was a step dad at one point). You guys with Netflix have to see this show! It's called "Big Mouth" .animated, seriously fucked up and hilarious!

will check it out tonight.

 

[Jed-O]

will check it out tonight.

be careful, it's hard to step away after you start it.

 

[DrunkenSailor]

be careful, it's hard to step away after you start it.

Damn man... I watched the first episode and fell asleep during the second. This show is nuts. Gonna pick it back up tonight.