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Odd story and am looking for advice on a questionably sensitive situation.
Wife's mom died a couple of years ago after a failed double lung transplant. She was cremated and put in a fairly large urn.
On Thanksgiving 2018 the entire family came to our place and wife's dad asked if he could bring Mom. How or why could/would I say no? She was placed right in the middle of our 8 person table. No way to see past or around for dinner with this urn being around 1.5' wide by 1.5' tall. Either way everyone seemed humble and ok with it. End of the evening everyone leaves and the next day I notice she is still on the table. Being sensitive to the issue I don't say a word about it as it may have been an accident. Needless to say we are the only family members that live in AZ so they all drove back to San Diego without her.
Christmas comes and goes and the same results.
Finally I get word that everyone is coming again for Easter. I was ready to bring up the urn issue with her dad when unexpectantly dad shows up with a date. My head dropped as there was no way I could ask him now.
So now what am I supposed to do. I feel this is kinda fucked that he just dropped the urn off on his daughter/and me when this was his wife. We are both in our 30's so what are we supposed to do? Take her with us for the next 40 (hopefully) years of our life? I feel like this isn't something a kid is supposed to deal with then the parent is still around.
Advice?
Wife's mom died a couple of years ago after a failed double lung transplant. She was cremated and put in a fairly large urn.
On Thanksgiving 2018 the entire family came to our place and wife's dad asked if he could bring Mom. How or why could/would I say no? She was placed right in the middle of our 8 person table. No way to see past or around for dinner with this urn being around 1.5' wide by 1.5' tall. Either way everyone seemed humble and ok with it. End of the evening everyone leaves and the next day I notice she is still on the table. Being sensitive to the issue I don't say a word about it as it may have been an accident. Needless to say we are the only family members that live in AZ so they all drove back to San Diego without her.
Christmas comes and goes and the same results.
Finally I get word that everyone is coming again for Easter. I was ready to bring up the urn issue with her dad when unexpectantly dad shows up with a date. My head dropped as there was no way I could ask him now.
So now what am I supposed to do. I feel this is kinda fucked that he just dropped the urn off on his daughter/and me when this was his wife. We are both in our 30's so what are we supposed to do? Take her with us for the next 40 (hopefully) years of our life? I feel like this isn't something a kid is supposed to deal with then the parent is still around.
Advice?