Tim, as someone above said, I'd recommend going to the shooting range and renting any 9mm he finds to fit his hand comfortably. Find the one he likes the best and get that. I'm a Glock fan, but the most important thing is to pick something that feels good in his hands. Next, I'd suggest some basic training. Front Sight is just outside of Vegas and they will provide a good base for safety and shooting. You can get a lifetime membership for less than the cost of most 1-day classes. PM me if you want more info.