ChiliPepperGarage
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I have a buddy that works for me and has developed a drinking problem. Recently split with his wife and divorcing and has resulting money issues. Good guy, good worker but the drinking is now interfering with his work. Sleeping in late or not coming in at all.
This past Monday and Tuesday we had a product manufacturer national sales convention in Palm Springs. I didn't go (I'm the GM) but the owner went as well as a few sales people. They all told me my buddy got so drunk Monday night they had to carry him back to his room. The convention started Monday morning at 7AM and he didn't get there until mid day (we have a GPS tracker on his company truck so I can see where it is at any time). One of the sales guys said he wreaked of alcohol when he got there and was loud and very animated. He missed the morning sessions the next day. Then he didn't come to work at all today.
I called him this afternoon and had a long conversation about his drinking and that he has a great opportunity to make a lot of money here but he is going to blow it. He could lose his job as well as custody rights for his kids. He says his kids are all he has right now. I told him to meet me for dinner and we'll talk some more.
So we meet for dinner and as soon as we walk in the restaurant he is loud and kind of in that "I love you man" type mood. I asked him if had been drinking and he insisted that he wasn't but maybe still buzzed from Monday night. So it seems he is in denial and I don't know how to deal with it.
I told him how important it is that he straightens up and starts putting in the hours at work and he agrees. I'll see if he shows up tomorrow morning or not. I'm in the office at 5AM daily and he used to be as well but not lately. I set up a job walk for him at 8AM in Santa Ana so he better make that.
If he is late again I'm not sure how to handle it. I don't have much experience dealing with this type of thing. My ex was a bit of a lush but only on weekends. She was tiny, 100 pounds so one Cosmo and she was buzzed. After two she was blotto but would never acknowledge it, always saying she was fine. This went on until she got popped with w DUI and had to go to AA. She never drank again after that. Maybe I need to narc out my buddy when he is driving!
That's another concern is that he drives a company truck an it is his only vehicle so he's putting the company at risk for a potential law suit if something happens.
His dad lives in Havasu and I thought about calling him but don't want to piss him off.
Any one have experience dealing with drinkers? Advise on how to handle it?
This past Monday and Tuesday we had a product manufacturer national sales convention in Palm Springs. I didn't go (I'm the GM) but the owner went as well as a few sales people. They all told me my buddy got so drunk Monday night they had to carry him back to his room. The convention started Monday morning at 7AM and he didn't get there until mid day (we have a GPS tracker on his company truck so I can see where it is at any time). One of the sales guys said he wreaked of alcohol when he got there and was loud and very animated. He missed the morning sessions the next day. Then he didn't come to work at all today.
I called him this afternoon and had a long conversation about his drinking and that he has a great opportunity to make a lot of money here but he is going to blow it. He could lose his job as well as custody rights for his kids. He says his kids are all he has right now. I told him to meet me for dinner and we'll talk some more.
So we meet for dinner and as soon as we walk in the restaurant he is loud and kind of in that "I love you man" type mood. I asked him if had been drinking and he insisted that he wasn't but maybe still buzzed from Monday night. So it seems he is in denial and I don't know how to deal with it.
I told him how important it is that he straightens up and starts putting in the hours at work and he agrees. I'll see if he shows up tomorrow morning or not. I'm in the office at 5AM daily and he used to be as well but not lately. I set up a job walk for him at 8AM in Santa Ana so he better make that.
If he is late again I'm not sure how to handle it. I don't have much experience dealing with this type of thing. My ex was a bit of a lush but only on weekends. She was tiny, 100 pounds so one Cosmo and she was buzzed. After two she was blotto but would never acknowledge it, always saying she was fine. This went on until she got popped with w DUI and had to go to AA. She never drank again after that. Maybe I need to narc out my buddy when he is driving!
That's another concern is that he drives a company truck an it is his only vehicle so he's putting the company at risk for a potential law suit if something happens.
His dad lives in Havasu and I thought about calling him but don't want to piss him off.
Any one have experience dealing with drinkers? Advise on how to handle it?