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BUDMAN

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As the title reads my betterhalf truly is amazing.
I’ll try to give the short version. We have a six grand kids total. Three we don’t get to see as much as we would like to & three that live with us. For the better part of the last 2 years we’ve had three of our grandkids and baby momma living with us due to some unforeseen circumstances. Our son currently is not in the position to take care of them even though he would like too, he’s just not financially able too. Baby momma who the wife and I had done our best to help and get her life on a path of independence have failed. Started out real well by getting a medical assistant degree from a trade school which I dove her back & forth from 4 days a week, we watched the kids for her to attend school as well we would watch the kids when she had part time jobs that I would take her to and from with hardly a thank you in return. She would always find a way to lose the job that was never her fault. 🙄 Let’s just say, if it wasn’t for the grandkids she would not have been in our home. Disrespectful, rude, expected everything for nothing I could go on & on. We kept telling ourselves it’s what’s best for the grand kids and she knew it and used it to her advantage. Not seeing a way out of this situation and no light at the end of a tunnel the wife and I just kept saying “it’s for the kids”. Well we finally seen the light at the end of that long, long tunnel. Found out she was pregnant from baby daddy #2 CONGRATULATIONS! the wife tells her and by the way your not having that baby here!
I’ll wrap this up. Baby momma has moved out, left the 3 grandkids with us which we told her to until they can get it figured out. Baby daddy #2 is total loser and they are both living in her van.
After having a very short discussion about it, the wife decided to file for guardianship of the 3 so we can have the rights to them for medical decisions and what ever else we need that I can’t think of off hand. So yes my wife is truly amazing. We’re not young people any more. So taking on the responsibility of raising a 3yr old, 4yr old, 7yr old and this manchild for who knows how long. So yes I find her to be amazing.
So let me introduce you to the kids

Dee
Pynn
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JL95

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Very nice. What is your son doing right now
 

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I watched my parents go through this with my sister's kids. Your wife may be a saint, but you aren't far off her heels. The stability alone will greatly help them, and the opportunities that may give them can change a lot of things.
30 years ago, the courts were bad. I can't say as though I've heard of great improvement.
 

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I follow you on Instagram and love your posts , Brother. I am 50 with a 3 year old, so I know the struggle!

Just following along, your Son has three babies from the lazy Baby Momma? Who look amazing by the way so happy to be out on the boat!
 

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As the title reads my betterhalf truly is amazing.
I’ll try to give the short version. We have a six grand kids total. Three we don’t get to see as much as we would like to & three that live with us. For the better part of the last 2 years we’ve had three of our grandkids and baby momma living with us due to some unforeseen circumstances. Our son currently is not in the position to take care of them even though he would like too, he’s just not financially able too. Baby momma who the wife and I had done our best to help and get her life on a path of independence have failed. Started out real well by getting a medical assistant degree from a trade school which I dove her back & forth from 4 days a week, we watched the kids for her to attend school as well we would watch the kids when she had part time jobs that I would take her to and from with hardly a thank you in return. She would always find a way to lose the job that was never her fault. 🙄 Let’s just say, if it wasn’t for the grandkids she would not have been in our home. Disrespectful, rude, expected everything for nothing I could go on & on. We kept telling ourselves it’s what’s best for the grand kids and she knew it and used it to her advantage. Not seeing a way out of this situation and no light at the end of a tunnel the wife and I just kept saying “it’s for the kids”. Well we finally seen the light at the end of that long, long tunnel. Found out she was pregnant from baby daddy #2 CONGRATULATIONS! the wife tells her and by the way your not having that baby here!
I’ll wrap this up. Baby momma has moved out, left the 3 grandkids with us which we told her to until they can get it figured out. Baby daddy #2 is total loser and they are both living in her van.
After having a very short discussion about it, the wife decided to file for guardianship of the 3 so we can have the rights to them for medical decisions and what ever else we need that I can’t think of off hand. So yes my wife is truly amazing. We’re not young people any more. So taking on the responsibility of raising a 3yr old, 4yr old, 7yr old and this manchild for who knows how long. So yes I find her to be amazing.
So let me introduce you to the kids

Dee
Pynn
Dents

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Gotta love the name(s).😊😇🥰
 

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You were always tops in my book, but now you are one click below God. Can’t imagine how you and the wife can handle that and yet have never seen a pic of you and her that aren’t smiling like you just won the lottery. Best to you and her Sir.
 

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Really shows how much you both love your grandkids!!! Your wife is an amazing lady and you are as well Brother!

Lets hope your son can get things settled and take over at some point however at least his children are safe and well cared for.
 

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Congrats.
Selfless act
Those kids have no idea how lucky they are, having you and Shannon in their lives and having their back!
 
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Very nice. What is your son doing right now
To clarify a little. The wife and I have four kids between us. One boy and one girl each. The two girls are doing amazing and have their life’s right on track and been going in the right direction forever. We never had to worry about them (we do of course, we’re parents,) my son seems to have finally found his path and seems to be doing well. Moved to Havasu, got married and gave us grandkid #6. The father of the three grandkids my step son is just taking a little longer is all. Not going back to baby mamma has been a huge step in the right direction.

So to answer your question: lives in Havasu and drives long haul.
 

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Kudos to you and your wife for stepping in/up when others have failed to/them. It's sad that the kids didn't ask for any of it they just want to be loved and cared for as they should.
Unfortunately we’ve become the authority figures in their lives instead of the grandparent role….spoil them and send them home 🤣
 

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Unfortunately we’ve become the authority figures in their lives instead of the grandparent role….spoil them and send them home 🤣
Understood but if not for you and your wife, who? It sucks and I have seen it happen a few times but they are going to be better people because you were there when others refused to.
 

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You were always tops in my book, but now you are one click below God. Can’t imagine how you and the wife can handle that and yet have never seen a pic of you and her that aren’t smiling like you just won the lottery. Best to you and her Sir.
Thank you so much for the kind words Sir. I’m just trying my best. Some days are better than others.
 

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The privileges of grandchildren without many responsibilities is the way it supposed to work. But this is what happen to a friend at 69 or 70 years old, he got a call that his daughter OD and need to go pick up his grandson, that was 5 years ago and they are doing great.
Despite challenges you have gone thru with the mom, you have been raising grandchildren for years and now no one can take them away. You are very committed to providing care and finding the resources needed to give your grandchildren a loving home and safe environment. You both are amazing , Job well done.
 

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Paul, we’re going to be up in havasu most of the summer (well bri and mak will be, I’ll be commuting(4/3) until we get a house deal done). Y’all are always welcome to bring the kids over for pool days I’m sure mak would love the company.

Good on you both for being the best kind of grandparents. Smart choice on the guardianship… Breck has had to navigate that path…I know he no longer posts but I’ll connect you two if you need someone to chat with about it. They’ll be out here in June visiting as well..
 

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Wow Paul that is amazing of you guys.
Sounds like you are definitely doing what is best for the kids.
 

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You need to get her rights severed. Get rid of her completely, get her out of their lives.

I cannot begin to express to you how important this is.

My background is having a foster son and adopting a special needs child that we raised from a toddler. His egg donor caused him to be born with FAS and then RAD by her lack of care and bonding with him.
I will write about some pertinent things when I have time.

It is very destructive to those childrens lives to allow a worthless sperm or egg donor to influence and confuse them.

Offer the stupid cunt money to give them up. Hopefully she will commit suicide by drugs and free them up from a life of delusion.

I’d gladly strangle the life out of my sons egg donor if it would reverse the damage that was done to him.
 

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Wow, yes you and wifey deserve a shit amount of props!!! Amazing!

Do you want a dog? ;)
 

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As the title reads my betterhalf truly is amazing.
I’ll try to give the short version. We have a six grand kids total. Three we don’t get to see as much as we would like to & three that live with us. For the better part of the last 2 years we’ve had three of our grandkids and baby momma living with us due to some unforeseen circumstances. Our son currently is not in the position to take care of them even though he would like too, he’s just not financially able too. Baby momma who the wife and I had done our best to help and get her life on a path of independence have failed. Started out real well by getting a medical assistant degree from a trade school which I dove her back & forth from 4 days a week, we watched the kids for her to attend school as well we would watch the kids when she had part time jobs that I would take her to and from with hardly a thank you in return. She would always find a way to lose the job that was never her fault. 🙄 Let’s just say, if it wasn’t for the grandkids she would not have been in our home. Disrespectful, rude, expected everything for nothing I could go on & on. We kept telling ourselves it’s what’s best for the grand kids and she knew it and used it to her advantage. Not seeing a way out of this situation and no light at the end of a tunnel the wife and I just kept saying “it’s for the kids”. Well we finally seen the light at the end of that long, long tunnel. Found out she was pregnant from baby daddy #2 CONGRATULATIONS! the wife tells her and by the way your not having that baby here!
I’ll wrap this up. Baby momma has moved out, left the 3 grandkids with us which we told her to until they can get it figured out. Baby daddy #2 is total loser and they are both living in her van.
After having a very short discussion about it, the wife decided to file for guardianship of the 3 so we can have the rights to them for medical decisions and what ever else we need that I can’t think of off hand. So yes my wife is truly amazing. We’re not young people any more. So taking on the responsibility of raising a 3yr old, 4yr old, 7yr old and this manchild for who knows how long. So yes I find her to be amazing.
So let me introduce you to the kids

Dee
Pynn
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Wow Paul, I had no idea! That is a major undertaking, you guys are truly giving these kids their best shot at a happy childhood and good upbringing.
That is awesome! Major work but what you are doing is truly changing lives. Kudos!
 

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Lol

Women are a strange bunch. Can’t communicate for shit, super emotional, and just generally a handful.

But when it comes to taking care of and loving kids, no better person than a Woman to step in and make it happen.

But I still want to strangle my old lady on a daily basis???? Where’s the disconnect? Lol
 

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Some might know my families situation. Life can suck at times.
Sometimes you just have to do what needs to be done.
Don’t sell yourself short. You are pretty amazing as is your wife to do this.
Your grandkids obviously need you now. No matter the situation and you saw that.
I can’t give you guys enough kudos. Words just can’t say it.
I would also consider pursuing legal adoption if that is in the cards. Then I think you will have even more control in “your” hands.

My heart goes to the grandkids. But at the same time I’m sure they will be loved to no end.

Best wishes to you and yours. ♥️
 

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I know that it has been a challenge for some time. You guys have been amazing and such a godsend for the children. We have always enjoyed the oldest each time she is in town with you two. We look forward to meeting the other two down the road. You two have been doing a great job trying to create a stable family for them. You two are amazing and a godsend to the kids. I hope that things continue to improve for your son. As always just port up if you ever need anything. 👍
 

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I think that was a joke.. lol
Definitely a joke. Their actual names are
Lailah 7 our first and like a daughter to me than a granddaughter. She’s my ride or die. We take her everywhere with us before this all went down.

Noah 4 Our second and has a smile that lights up a room and the most outgoing personality ever.

Isabelle 3 our fourth. Shy and quite until she knows you and so stubborn. What can I say about her. She knows how to be cute to get what she wants, but she has no problem telling you in a 3 yr olds way to Fuck Off! 🤦🏻‍♂️ this was so mainly because her mom let her do what ever. She’s coming around and realizing Papa means business though. We can see the change.
 

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As the title reads my betterhalf truly is amazing.
I’ll try to give the short version. We have a six grand kids total. Three we don’t get to see as much as we would like to & three that live with us. For the better part of the last 2 years we’ve had three of our grandkids and baby momma living with us due to some unforeseen circumstances. Our son currently is not in the position to take care of them even though he would like too, he’s just not financially able too. Baby momma who the wife and I had done our best to help and get her life on a path of independence have failed. Started out real well by getting a medical assistant degree from a trade school which I dove her back & forth from 4 days a week, we watched the kids for her to attend school as well we would watch the kids when she had part time jobs that I would take her to and from with hardly a thank you in return. She would always find a way to lose the job that was never her fault. 🙄 Let’s just say, if it wasn’t for the grandkids she would not have been in our home. Disrespectful, rude, expected everything for nothing I could go on & on. We kept telling ourselves it’s what’s best for the grand kids and she knew it and used it to her advantage. Not seeing a way out of this situation and no light at the end of a tunnel the wife and I just kept saying “it’s for the kids”. Well we finally seen the light at the end of that long, long tunnel. Found out she was pregnant from baby daddy #2 CONGRATULATIONS! the wife tells her and by the way your not having that baby here!
I’ll wrap this up. Baby momma has moved out, left the 3 grandkids with us which we told her to until they can get it figured out. Baby daddy #2 is total loser and they are both living in her van.
After having a very short discussion about it, the wife decided to file for guardianship of the 3 so we can have the rights to them for medical decisions and what ever else we need that I can’t think of off hand. So yes my wife is truly amazing. We’re not young people any more. So taking on the responsibility of raising a 3yr old, 4yr old, 7yr old and this manchild for who knows how long. So yes I find her to be amazing.
So let me introduce you to the kids

Dee
Pynn
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You and your wife are good peeps. You are giving your grandkids a chance at life. Well done by you both
 

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I knew you and Shannan were great people but , you just went to Superstar status now . Those grand kids are so lucky to have such great grandparents .
 

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The kids are so lucky to have you and Shannon, You guys are amazing Grand parents and friends to all of us.

Proud of you guys.
 

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You two are doing a great job. Amazing the way you are able to take over and give them the love and support they need.
 
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