W.O.T
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Alright I am in a lousy situation and could use some Legal advice please! Long Read
A year ago I met a woman who I thought was "The One". Appeared to be squared away she is beautiful good job etc. and has a 4 year old son. We've been together since and things went pretty good. We decided to get a place together and in October we rent a nice house together. I have seen some RED flags but I really thought things were going to be fine.
Well I shit you not, the day we signed the lease things immediately turned for the worse. She threw a fit and it got to the point where I didn't know if we were even going to move in. She was already telling me she hated the place and if we moved in we would be sleeping in separate rooms. At one point she even backed out completely telling me she wasn't moving in. Well about two weeks later she calls me apologizing and crying telling me she knows she has issues and asked if we could please move in.
So we move in. By week 3 things were shit at best. She turns out to be completely controlling and unhappy with me about everything. I'm living on eggshells. She did nothing but talk down on me, talk bad about my family, and talking bad about my job (Deputy Sheriff) I bit my lip the whole time. She treated me like shit. Like I was a child or something. Every day I'd get calls or texts asking why I did this or that and complaining about everything. She's the type that cannot go more than 3 or 4 days without fabricating up a fight. She's just not "OK" without chaos in life. She's admitted this before another red flag I ignored. So one day we are arguing about me going shooting with a friend and I about reached my breaking point. I tell a buddy I need to stay the night at his place to catch a breather. So I text her that day while she's at work that I wont be coming home tonight and lets clear our minds and talk about this tomorrow.
Later that night I get a pic message of all of my stuff packed up on the driveway saying come get your stuff I'm done. So the following morning my friend and I went and picked up my stuff and put everything in my storage. I stay a week with my sister and at this point she is completely apologetic crying and saying she's sorry! Then she goes on to tell me she's PREGNANT! And says this is the reason for her treating my like shit.
So I was obviously concerned for her being pregnant and I decide to go back so we can "Fix" this. Well turns out she can and will not prove to me that she was in fact Prego and is on her period! About two weeks go by and she's back at her normal Shenanigans. I am in Law Enforcement and on more than one occasion she has made statements about making claims of me being abusive and domestically violent with her. She threatened to call internal affairs with my job to report me.
I decide it would probably be best to abandon ship. So one day while she was at work I packed the little bit of stuff I had and left. I went and got my own place that day. I did not tell her I was leaving because I know that it wouldn't have ended well. I found out that she has TWO prior domestic violence arrest with exes. This is why I left the way I did.
So now, we have talked since and she found out that I got my own place and since I left bought a new BMW 335 I've always wanted which I wanted to do before my credit might take a hit if she leaves the place etc. Needless to say she is Livid! Thinks I'm out partying it up living the good life. She claims I left her for another woman etc. She has since called my work and spoke to my Lieutenant and got the number for internal affairs for my department. She hasn't made any claims yet but says she will if she needs to. Me leaving her is a civil matter and work will not be involved. I can only think of the things she might claim. I have kept my supervisors in the loop of this situation so they weren't caught off guard.
I feel Terrible for leaving the way I did and for her son who she constantly uses as "leverage". I really do love her and the kid and I wish things worked out despite all that has happened.
She is now threatening to take me to small claims court regarding our lease and suing me if I don't continue to pay half the rent. I'm considering paying half the rent because I feel that is morally the "Right" thing to do. And I realize I signed the lease and I feel terrible for leaving her hanging. But I would be killing myself with overtime to pay all of this. I've offered to even leave my place and stay in the extra room for the remainder of the lease. She does not want me in the house and I know that is probably a good thing for the sake of me possibly losing my job if she decides to make up a claim against me.
What should I do? Suck it up and pay half the rent for 9 more months? My friends tell me NO Way she did this and take it to court and with the text messages I have and experiences I've had I should be ok.
So any advice or legal help would be appreciated. Sorry for the long read but I wanted to paint the whole picture.
Why are the hot ones the craziest?
And I know Pics....Haha
A year ago I met a woman who I thought was "The One". Appeared to be squared away she is beautiful good job etc. and has a 4 year old son. We've been together since and things went pretty good. We decided to get a place together and in October we rent a nice house together. I have seen some RED flags but I really thought things were going to be fine.
Well I shit you not, the day we signed the lease things immediately turned for the worse. She threw a fit and it got to the point where I didn't know if we were even going to move in. She was already telling me she hated the place and if we moved in we would be sleeping in separate rooms. At one point she even backed out completely telling me she wasn't moving in. Well about two weeks later she calls me apologizing and crying telling me she knows she has issues and asked if we could please move in.
So we move in. By week 3 things were shit at best. She turns out to be completely controlling and unhappy with me about everything. I'm living on eggshells. She did nothing but talk down on me, talk bad about my family, and talking bad about my job (Deputy Sheriff) I bit my lip the whole time. She treated me like shit. Like I was a child or something. Every day I'd get calls or texts asking why I did this or that and complaining about everything. She's the type that cannot go more than 3 or 4 days without fabricating up a fight. She's just not "OK" without chaos in life. She's admitted this before another red flag I ignored. So one day we are arguing about me going shooting with a friend and I about reached my breaking point. I tell a buddy I need to stay the night at his place to catch a breather. So I text her that day while she's at work that I wont be coming home tonight and lets clear our minds and talk about this tomorrow.
Later that night I get a pic message of all of my stuff packed up on the driveway saying come get your stuff I'm done. So the following morning my friend and I went and picked up my stuff and put everything in my storage. I stay a week with my sister and at this point she is completely apologetic crying and saying she's sorry! Then she goes on to tell me she's PREGNANT! And says this is the reason for her treating my like shit.
So I was obviously concerned for her being pregnant and I decide to go back so we can "Fix" this. Well turns out she can and will not prove to me that she was in fact Prego and is on her period! About two weeks go by and she's back at her normal Shenanigans. I am in Law Enforcement and on more than one occasion she has made statements about making claims of me being abusive and domestically violent with her. She threatened to call internal affairs with my job to report me.
I decide it would probably be best to abandon ship. So one day while she was at work I packed the little bit of stuff I had and left. I went and got my own place that day. I did not tell her I was leaving because I know that it wouldn't have ended well. I found out that she has TWO prior domestic violence arrest with exes. This is why I left the way I did.
So now, we have talked since and she found out that I got my own place and since I left bought a new BMW 335 I've always wanted which I wanted to do before my credit might take a hit if she leaves the place etc. Needless to say she is Livid! Thinks I'm out partying it up living the good life. She claims I left her for another woman etc. She has since called my work and spoke to my Lieutenant and got the number for internal affairs for my department. She hasn't made any claims yet but says she will if she needs to. Me leaving her is a civil matter and work will not be involved. I can only think of the things she might claim. I have kept my supervisors in the loop of this situation so they weren't caught off guard.
I feel Terrible for leaving the way I did and for her son who she constantly uses as "leverage". I really do love her and the kid and I wish things worked out despite all that has happened.
She is now threatening to take me to small claims court regarding our lease and suing me if I don't continue to pay half the rent. I'm considering paying half the rent because I feel that is morally the "Right" thing to do. And I realize I signed the lease and I feel terrible for leaving her hanging. But I would be killing myself with overtime to pay all of this. I've offered to even leave my place and stay in the extra room for the remainder of the lease. She does not want me in the house and I know that is probably a good thing for the sake of me possibly losing my job if she decides to make up a claim against me.
What should I do? Suck it up and pay half the rent for 9 more months? My friends tell me NO Way she did this and take it to court and with the text messages I have and experiences I've had I should be ok.
So any advice or legal help would be appreciated. Sorry for the long read but I wanted to paint the whole picture.
Why are the hot ones the craziest?
And I know Pics....Haha
