- Aug 28, 2016
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Some friends of ours were very cordial about it. They didn't even get an attorney/mediator involved. They wrote everything up (kids included) themselves had it notarized went infront of a judge, judge asked both parties if they were OK with it both said yes, he think about it and make any changes you would like and I will see you back in 6 months. They went back in 6 months and he signed their divorce papers, done. They just grew apart, no fighting, cheating or anything, they are actually still really good friends.Sad but true. When my ex walked after 30 years of marriage (no young kids) I looked up what the laws were. Explained to her what she and I would end up with and asked if she wanted to piss through $50,000 in attorney fees to end up with the same thing or do it ourselves. We hired an attorney/ mediator for $1,800.00 wrote up who gets what. the attorney made sure it was legal and would be signed by the judge. Sold the house and split the money. Split all the investments down the middle. I paid her for half the boat and the Harley that I kept, sold the other Harley and split the money. The one sticking point was my tools (about 35K worth). She wanted to be paid for half. I told her no. That we would split them up and she could take half of them. She dropped it. Also said that since I was a dirt bike rider when we met that she would not go for half of any of the dirt bikes and equipment. As far as the household stuff I told her to take whatever she wanted.
It’s much better to bend and get it over with quickly. I hope it works out for you.