19 Years today. The 10% / 90% Rule Holding Strong.

[TPC]

Married 19 Years today.
Marriage is a 90 / 10 situation is my situation. Though I usually get the 10% end of the deal.

Our walk-in closet was 50 - 50 but now I have a couple of crushed shirts hanging.
Wife's GF's say to me "You're Lucky to even have that."

How long and how is YOUR marriage doing?
Any tips or tales?

Maynard likes this girl and I've wondered if he's too much a gentleman, too nice, that girls want wrong.
He's no wuss. Trapeze tricks, cliff diving, fearless MX rider been launched a few times, gets back up and rides,,, just quiet and polite.

I've mentioned to him things I've thought worked for me with women. Unsolicited. Free advise is worth what ya paid for it.

Don't get mad your girl because they are mad at you.
Let them talk, let them spin until they spin out.

Never say anything hurtful. Girls put their feeling for you down a notch and you'll never click back up a notch.
Only so many notches on that cog.

If they aren't interested in you, move on, nothing you can ever do to change that.

 

[angiebaby]

Happy anniversary Ross and Alice Has it really been 19 years?

 

[TPC]

Happy anniversary Ross and Alice Has it really been 19 years?

Yes and thank you.
Time fly's doesn't it?

 

[Ziggy]

Wow, like Angie said, 19 already?.....
Have a super-duper anniversary!

 

[Ziggy]

Oh, since you asked.....wife & I are 21 days shy of our 35th.

 

[DLC]

Congratulations !!

19 is Awesome ! Keep it going

 

[Flyinbowtie]

Congrats Ross.

Your advice is well founded, LOL. Cindy has our giant closet less 1 ft, plus the closet upstairs.
I am good with that.
Married 45 years next month, together 49 last Sept.
Day one, senior year of high school. I was 5 min late for 1st period. (worked til 2 am).
Walked in, looked around. Seat open next to cute blond.
I ain't stupid. I sat in it.
That was the start.

 

[Sleek-Jet]

My grandpa told me on the day I got married... Just apologize, even if you are right. He was married 60+ years and wasn't the real go-along type (career and retired LEO). It Has seemed to work but there are times pride gets in the way, LOL. Truth is most of the arguments are not about anything important, it just life spilling over into our marriage and one of my jobs is to be there to be a conduit for that release.

Congrats on 19 years Ross and Allison, here's to so many more.

 

[TeamGreene]

Congrats it takes a little work and a little of respect to go the distance. Be 37 this September.

 

[DWC]

My wife does a good job of letting me think I’m in charge. Works for both of us.

Somehow I still have half the closet space. Guessing she has crap in the other rooms.

Agree there’s a fine line between being polite and a pushover. Figuring out what to dig your heels in and fight and what to let go is essential to a long term relationship.

We hit 32 years in October.

 

[RitcheyRch]

Happy Anniversary

 

[coolchange]

35 ish have to figure it out. I make the rules, she follows them. Simple as tha…
Oh shit gotta go….

 

[angiebaby]

Oh, since you asked.....wife & I are 21 days shy of our 35th.

Team 1990 in da house!! 49 days for us.

 

[HB2Havasu]

Married 19 Years today.
Marriage is a 90 / 10 situation is my situation. Though I usually get the 10% end of the deal.

Our walk-in closet was 50 - 50 but now I have a couple of crushed shirts hanging.
Wife's GF's say to me "You're Lucky to even have that."

How long and how is YOUR marriage doing?
Any tips or tales?

Maynard likes this girl and I've wondered if he's too much a gentleman, too nice, that girls want wrong.
He's no wuss. Trapeze tricks, cliff diving, fearless MX rider been launched a few times, gets back up and rides,,, just quiet and polite.

I've mentioned to him things I've thought worked for me with women. Unsolicited. Free advise is worth what ya paid for it.

Don't get mad your girl because they are mad at you.
Let them talk, let them spin until they spin out.

Never say anything hurtful. Girls put their feeling for you down a notch and you'll never click back up a notch.
Only so many notches on that cog.

If they aren't interested in you, move on, nothing you can ever do to change that.

Good Advise right there Sir! Congratulations on 19 years, that's no easy feat in todays krazy world.

 

[Gramps]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!! we will hit 46 in a couple of months

 

[TPC]

My wife doesn't listen to a word I say.

 

[FreeBird236]

Congrats to both of you. 53 for us in September.

 

[Bails]

Married 19 Years today.
Marriage is a 90 / 10 situation is my situation. Though I usually get the 10% end of the deal.

Our walk-in closet was 50 - 50 but now I have a couple of crushed shirts hanging.
Wife's GF's say to me "You're Lucky to even have that."

How long and how is YOUR marriage doing?
Any tips or tales?

Maynard likes this girl and I've wondered if he's too much a gentleman, too nice, that girls want wrong.
He's no wuss. Trapeze tricks, cliff diving, fearless MX rider been launched a few times, gets back up and rides,,, just quiet and polite.

I've mentioned to him things I've thought worked for me with women. Unsolicited. Free advise is worth what ya paid for it.

Don't get mad your girl because they are mad at you.
Let them talk, let them spin until they spin out.

Never say anything hurtful. Girls put their feeling for you down a notch and you'll never click back up a notch.
Only so many notches on that cog.

If they aren't interested in you, move on, nothing you can ever do to change that.

Congrats!!


Yesterday I was at Sunday family lunch. I was sitting there with my SIL, my sister, and my 28 year old cousin. The cousin was telling us about her dating life, you know, the same old story, it's hard to meet good guys and such. I was sitting there quietly listening, when she turns to me and asks me why I don't try to set her up. All three ladies looked at me and seemed to think this was a good idea. I stopped them all and told them now that I'm in my mid 50's I have learned a couple of things. The one important thing I learned in regards to this situation was when women complain they don't actually want you to help or try to fix it, they just want you to listen and maybe show a little sympathy.

I told my cousin this and then told her I'm a man of action and if she really wanted my help to find some dates, I would. After thinking about it, she declined my offer. My SIL asked me to let my brother in on this little nugget of truth.

 

[old rigger]

40 years for us in June. Not really sure how the hell it happened, I just got very lucky.

 

[2Driver]

Congrats, 41 here.

 

[C-2]

Congrats!

 

[Runs2rch]

10 years in a few weeks.

Still no BJ's after the cake.....

 

[TPC]

Some great tips and tales in this thread.

 

[sprintcvx]

Congrats! We're also Team 1990.. 35 in Aug.

 

[Mandelon]

36 in the books. We've only had a couple arguments in all that time.

First step is to pick well.
Second step is to not sweat the small shit.

Third step is to realize that starting over with a new wife would be even harder. LOL

 

[JUSTWANNARACE]

Your wife has a GF? Do you get to watch atleast?

Happy Anniversary!!

27yrs here.. but not married.

 

[TPC]

Your wife has a GF? Do you get to watch atleast?

Happy Anniversary!!

27yrs here.. but not married.

Wifes out now walking the dog with her HOT German GF's and their dogs. 4+ miles on the hilly sidewalks of Simi.
All married to older guys.

Thats all we are, we're simply older guys to European girls.

Older guys buy them nicer cars and houses.

 

[spectras only]

40 yrs for us this year. Her wardrobe is more full than mine for sure. I'm using up most of my T-shirts for garage rags though, and she always drags me to department stores to buy new clothes, LOL I make the coffee every morning for her take it to bed with a cookie, to feel I'm her butler, haha

 

[bilz]

Goong on 36.
Most of the above advice is solid.
Oh, and congrats!

 

[oldschool]

Happy Anniversary! Wife and I are 28 years in. Marriage is easy once you find your acceptable level of misery.

 

[wallnutz]

Congratulations! We are 32 years in on our sentence. We are simple we don’t go to bed mad, haven’t slept for 31 years

 

[SLT Kota]

3 years and counting! Hope to me a multi decade guy one day.

 

[Socalx09]

Congratulations!

Married 2 years today so we have a long way to go. For the most part, I let him do whatever he wants. I never wanted to be the naggy wife that says no all the time or is needy. I feel like that just makes someone not want to be around and eventually that leads to a breaking point.
I feel like he does the same in return. We don’t demand anything from each other, and it has been working out. Just keep things simple.

 

[Ziggy]

Congratulations!

Married 2 years today so we have a long way to go. For the most part, I let him do whatever he wants. I never wanted to be the naggy wife that says no all the time or is needy. I feel like that just makes someone not want to be around and eventually that leads to a breaking point.
I feel like he does the same in return. We don’t demand anything from each other, and it has been working out. Just keep things simple.

Happy Anniversary!

 

[1tonfun]

Just hit 36 last month, met in high school. Her family was making bets at our wedding on how long we would last. The short story, our marriage has outlasted all her miserable relatives relationships. One bit of advice, always listen. Wife told me I needed hearing aids, maybe I do. Her complaint was I didn't listen to her. I repeated everything she said for the last hour and what we talked about that morning before going to work. I don't have selective hearing, I have selective answering. I have used selective answering to keep myself out of trouble, usually the first comment that comes to mind is something sarcastic. Like Bails said above, just listen and acknowledge. Trust is another key issue. I see my kids and others in their relationships and wonder how they are going to make it. My wife has the password to my phone and I have the password to hers. If there is something on there that they don't want the other half to see, then it shouldn't be there to begin with.

 

[musicFunsun]

Happy Anniversary!
Married 9 together for 12. A few bumps in the road but we work it out. I’m not always easy to live with because yes, sometimes it IS all about me.
Dual primary’s, a walk in & a regular closet in each room……guess who gets ONE regular??

 

[island time]

Married 28. Together 35. Grandpa and grandma yesterday morning. The next phase of getting old.
Crazy how fast it went.
I screw up more than she does. I've never been good at acting my age.

 

[TPC]

Happy Anniversary!
Married 9 together for 12. A few bumps in the road but we work it out. I’m not always easy to live with because yes, sometimes it IS all about me.
Dual primary’s, a walk in & a regular closet in each room……guess who gets ONE regular??

Married 19 together about 19.
"Goes to show you never can tell"

 

[CarolynandBob]

27 Years in Oct married, together 29. We pretty much let each other do what they want. Obviously within reason. She really doesn't complain. A few years ago she said I was too busy and do not spend enough time together. So for a week I kept track of each day how much time we were together, not including sleeping. I had the list and didn't say anything. Just handed the list to her. She took it and went to our shared calendar. She came back and said damn we spend way more time together than she thought. Wasn't a reason to argue, just collected the data and gave it to her. No point in fighting. Also someone said above about trust. My wife and I have always had passwords to each others computers. cell phone and tablet. Now we find it easier to just use the same passwords. They are pretty difficult passwords for security, but works for us.

 

[Hardly Satisfied]

Happy Anniversary