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My college experience was paid for by myself. Went to class between my full time job, and I was there to get out as quick as possible lol.

People say it’s not possible, but I somehow pulled it off. Didn’t know any different. Sure I think about if I had support from my parents throughout college, maybe I could have done more and be further ahead in life. Which is why I’d like to support my kids through college…. But if they’re wanting to live on campus and be in social clubs…etc, that’s isn’t coming from me lol. Heck if they are wanting to major in some nonsense degree, there will be zero support.

People who pay for their kids full ride, live on campus, a car. Etc are either horrible with money or make a crap ton more money than I ever will.
I went to CC for 2 years and was a couple credits from transferring out. I already had my Insurance license since age 19 and was making decent $$$ so I was lazy and didn't continue. I also was out of the house young paying bills so it would of been an uphill grind.

I'm not sure a degree really would have changed my life but I wish I would have stuck with it and finished it off as a fall back or as a tool to open other doors.

I'm a believer in higher education it just needs to be for something worthwhile. One of the crazy things about Utah is something like 80% of highschool kids graduate with a degree. The price to go to a quality local 4 year college here is crazy cheap compared to CA. I want to say utah tech is right around $5000 a year and that is before grants and aide. My nephew just graduated highschool and is going to tech I want to say the amount he has to pay after all the state help is like $300 a semester.
 

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My parents paid for my tuition. Very thankful for it as I’m debt free and don’t have student loan payments hanging over my head. Definitely helped me out since I can put the extra money towards a house down payment rather than repaying college loans.

So you are either horrible with money or making a shit ton more than Empire up there. Shape up, or congrats, depending on your personal situation :)
 

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I went to CC for 2 years and was a couple credits from transferring out. I already had my Insurance license since age 19 and was making decent $$$ so I was lazy and didn't continue. I also was out of the house young paying bills so it would of been an uphill grind.

I'm not sure a degree really would have changed my life but I wish I would have stuck with it and finished it off as a fall back or as a tool to open other doors.

I'm a believer in higher education it just needs to be for something worthwhile. One of the crazy things about Utah is something like 80% of highschool kids graduate with a degree. The price to go to a quality local 4 year college here is crazy cheap compared to CA. I want to say utah tech is right around $5000 a year and that is before grants and aide. My nephew just graduated highschool and is going to tech I want to say the amount he has to pay after all the state help is like $300 a semester.

Shut up. It sucks there. It is only freezing cold, or hellishly hot, and the mormons burn crosses in the front yards of nonbelievers.

I'm in Irvine today and its like I'm in Seattle.
 

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I went to CC for 2 years and was a couple credits from transferring out. I already had my Insurance license since age 19 and was making decent $$$ so I was lazy and didn't continue. I also was out of the house young paying bills so it would of been an uphill grind.

I'm not sure a degree really would have changed my life but I wish I would have stuck with it and finished it off as a fall back or as a tool to open other doors.

I'm a believer in higher education it just needs to be for something worthwhile. One of the crazy things about Utah is something like 80% of highschool kids graduate with a degree. The price to go to a quality local 4 year college here is crazy cheap compared to CA. I want to say utah tech is right around $5000 a year and that is before grants and aide. My nephew just graduated highschool and is going to tech I want to say the amount he has to pay after all the state help is like $300 a semester.
I was in the insurance office since age 17 and licensed @ 18… being first generation immigrants, my dad said I HAD to go to college, but didn’t have any money to help lol. Glad he forced me to go! Wasn’t really necessary for what I do, but college really opened my eyes and was beneficial overall, and a check off the list. Also was never planning on insurance being my long game so it was nice to have a plan B.

Only local college I like here is cal baptist, which is $$$$$. We’ll see what happens when the kids get to that age. Definitely needs to be something earned. IF we’re still in CA by then…
 

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I'm going to post something no one asked for.


I started working at the cabinet company 1st week after graduation. What was meant to be a summer job my dad offered me turned into 10+ years of consistent work, no college save for a few cad/ drafting classes at cc.
Started life early got married to my 8th grade gf at 19 and had 3 kids since. We were able to save living at home and bought our house at 24 with my own money and single income back in June 2020. I'm now 27. I was an asshole on a tirade to the top of the shop when I was young, never became complacent. I might still be an asshole who knows lol.
Young folks just have to want it bad enough. I could have done it 2 years earlier than I had if I saved more instead of buying lifted trucks lmao.

Covid interest rates were a godsend it helped the home budget out immensely. Me being me I had to do a huge 2 month renovation to it before even moving in so that hurt $$$
I wanted to stay single income for as long as possible because I am proud and like the concept as my mom never worked growing up and didn't have to. Bidenomics had different plans for me. Now my wife works for us as well from home. She's a hustler for sure.

Did I start on 1st base, 2nd base? and hit a home run.. Depending on who you ask maybe. Being able to save at home helped a ton but at the same time I had my little family to support.

Another thing is my statements hardly apply to Orangecounty or LA. idk how they do it. The only young people I know with houses out there have contractor dads who picked up the tab lol.
/Oversharing 👁️👁️
 

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Most financial advisors tell you that you should have your home paid off before you retire or have a sizable pension/income yielding investment portfolio. I wonder what will become of these YOLO's when they reach retirement age and they have neither?

Here is my prediction: When they get into their 40's and start to realize they have a bleak future they will vote in socialism or communism hoping it will result in free housing (and free everything) not realizing the consequences. They will think they will get a nice house in the suburbs or maybe a fancy apartment in the city but what they will actually get is a run down shack or a ghetto project.
I think this was the plan from the beginning of the socialist movement.
 

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Here’s my son and his buddy both 19. They started a mobile detailing business after they graduated and they do about 20-40 cars a week depending on what they’re doing. Anything from a wash to ceramic coating and paint corrections. He’s at community college running a 3.9gpa and just applied to UCLA. He wants to be an estate attorney. He talks to all his clients about their careers and how they made it big and he decided to go to law school.

I’m really proud of him. Something switched as soon as he graduated high school and he got really serious about his future. He gives me wads of cash every week to put away for him.

They’re washing mom and dad’s cars today. That’s his buddy’s F-150 that they use for their business.

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Our oldest is 25 and got married 6 months ago. He graduated with a finance degree and works for a wealth management firm making $80K. Not bad for a 25 year old. He’s got his insurance licenses and working on the rest. He’s making a career out of it. We helped him buy a condo 2 years ago and it’s appreciated $100K. He’s a great son and very good older brother to his siblings.

Our daughter just graduated high school and she turned 18 last week. She just got her license after 3rd try. 😆 she didn’t really care about driving till recently. She’s doing community college route and will be going to the zoology program and another college soon. She works part time at a cookie shop.

They’re all different but all three are great kids and human beings. Couldn’t ask for more. We’ll support them no matter what they want to do as long as it makes them happy and they can make a living out of it.

We told them all that instead of sending them away to expensive universities at $40K-$50K a year tuition/room etc…that they'll start at community college for the first two years to figure out what they want to do and we’ll use that money to help them buy their first condo. That’s really the only way kids can get into a place in So Cal and a lot of other places. They’re gonna need some help from mom and dad.
I told ours it’s CC if they don’t get a scholarship. So she upped her game, dropped swim to put all focus on grades & dual enrollment classes. It will cost about 7k a yr to send her to ASU living at home with this in state scholastic scholarship. Should only have 3.5 yrs at ASU at that point. At least that’s all I’m going to pay for anyways. I’d rather help them with a house purchase than over pay for school. They don’t like it but that’s the way it is.
 
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My college experience was paid for by myself. Went to class between my full time job, and I was there to get out as quick as possible lol.

People say it’s not possible, but I somehow pulled it off. Didn’t know any different. Sure I think about if I had support from my parents throughout college, maybe I could have done more and be further ahead in life. Which is why I’d like to support my kids through college…. But if they’re wanting to live on campus and be in social clubs…etc, that’s isn’t coming from me lol. Heck if they are wanting to major in some nonsense degree, there will be zero support.

People who pay for their kids full ride, live on campus, a car. Etc are either horrible with money or make a crap ton more money than I ever will.
Mine are pissed because we could do that but not gonna. No effin way!! Hahahaha
 

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Should only have 3.5 yrs at ASU at that point. At least that’s all I’m going to pay for anyways. I’d rather help them with a house purchase than over pay for school. They don’t like it but that’s the way it is.

Smart move.
Big name schools have turned into nothing more than predatory pirates. They're masters at polishing their reputations and burying how the disadvantage their tuition debt sets students (and parents) back in the real world.
 

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It has already been said, but I will say it again. The destruction of the traditional core values our culture carried for generations has led us right where the left wanted it to lead. The purposeful elimination of personal responsibility and accountability for one's actions has trickled down up and down the line to where our politicians are just as lacking in those core values as are the people who voted them in to office, and who cheer for them as the country comes apart. As if we were cheering for the naked king when he shows off his new clothes.
I have shouted from the rooftop for two decades about the shift in our schools from education to indoctrination, and what it would bring.
Breaks my heart I was right.
 

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Damn. Wasn’t expecting to read something as deep as this. On a side not. Since you’re on a boating website do you have a skiff? Or actual performance boat? 😂😂
Who the fuck are you that you don't know that basic information?

Fucking cock sucker.
 

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Excuse me?
You ever hear "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."?

Members are sharing personal experiences, and some dick just can't resist talking shit.

Yes, I was talking to you.

If you have been paying attention to any of the posts here, Tommy's Miller has been talked about and shown multiple times over the years, who the fuck are you to even ask?
 

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You ever hear "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."?

Members are sharing personal experiences, and some dick just can't resist talking shit.

Yes, I was talking to you.

If you have been paying attention to any of the posts here, Tommy's Miller has been talked about and shown multiple times over the years, who the fuck are you to even ask?
It isn’t deep to me. It was normal.

And yes, my boats have been well documented on here over 15 years.
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Wasn’t trying to disrespect at all was more so joking about how you mentioned Alaskan prisons when I think of Alaska I think of skiff style boats. You have some bad rides sir.
 

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You ever hear "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."?

Members are sharing personal experiences, and some dick just can't resist talking shit.

Yes, I was talking to you.

If you have been paying attention to any of the posts here, Tommy's Miller has been talked about and shown multiple times over the years, who the fuck are you to even ask?
Yea I have. I meant no disrespect toward him. He mentioned Alaska so I jokingly asked if he had a skiff? Never watch Alaskan bush people? Or port protection? Guess not. Maybe you shouldn’t jump in without facts. Does it make you feel good to talk shit from behind a keyboard for no reason? Just asking. Usually if im not directly involved in something I keep my nose out of it. Hope you have a nice day.
 

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You ever hear "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."?

Members are sharing personal experiences, and some dick just can't resist talking shit.

Yes, I was talking to you.

If you have been paying attention to any of the posts here, Tommy's Miller has been talked about and shown multiple times over the years, who the fuck are you to even ask?

I think you may have misread the intent of his post. It seemed to be from a place of curiosity, not call out.
 

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Yea I have. I meant no disrespect toward him. He mentioned Alaska so I jokingly asked if he had a skiff? Never watch Alaskan bush people? Or port protection? Guess not. Maybe you shouldn’t jump in without facts. Does it make you feel good to talk shit from behind a keyboard for no reason? Just asking. Usually if im not directly involved in something I keep my nose out of it. Hope you have a nice day.
We did have a skiff style boat!
A Lowe “big Jon” with a 35 Merc short shaft prop.
Think it was 16’?
Cool river runner. We took that thing everywhere.
We built a console in it with a steering wheel, it was all kinds of fun!
I’ll bet we murdered a thousand salmon in that thing over the years.
 

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Yea I have. I meant no disrespect toward him. He mentioned Alaska so I jokingly asked if he had a skiff? Never watch Alaskan bush people? Or port protection? Guess not. Maybe you shouldn’t jump in without facts. Does it make you feel good to talk shit from behind a keyboard for no reason? Just asking. Usually if im not directly involved in something I keep my nose out of it. Hope you have a nice day.

I came at your post all aggro like because it did look like you were calling Tommy out about even owning a boat. Not that he needs any help or defense.

Lets just call it a misunderstanding then.

I don't watch much TV. Lived in Alaska myself near where Tommy did.

Have yourself a nice day too.
 

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I came at your post all aggro like because it did look like you were calling Tommy out about even owning a boat. Not that he needs any help or defense.

Lets just call it a misunderstanding then.

I don't watch much TV. Lived in Alaska myself near where Tommy did.

Have yourself a nice day too.
We are good sir. It’s easy to misread or things come off wrong over text. No harm no foul.
 

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While scanning the online news sites this Headline caught my attention. "I'm sick and tired of being criticized for complaining about my Student Loan Debt" The author goes on to say, he comes from a Low Income Family, He was told a College Education was necessary in life. I didn't understand and was not explained the consequences of signing up for a "College Loan" "F F S" This Never Accepting Responsibility for your actions, is so typical and out of control, and IMO, not often taught in the home, and so many have been "Pampered, Babied, Coddled" and told not to worry about so many things that are "LIFE" I wonder and have ever read, if this will be reported on their Credit Report, or is this a "Free Ride"? Piss Poor Way to raise the Next generation. When the "Baby Boomer" Generations Money is all gone through, maybe it will be a Shocking "Wakeup" Call.
 

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School and social media has been detrimental to people wanting to achieve the "American dream". Its ridiculed to go and work your ASS off to make owning a home, cars, and whatever else a possibility. All the while these F-ing teachers want more money to teach socialism and communism to our kids.
 

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If my kid was gung ho about becoming a dr or scientist and got into Harvard or another ivy league collage I would sell my sole to send him there. Luckily that's never going to happen so I don't have anything to worry about...haha
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Employing this group of people is nauseating. You are right, they know they will never get a place of their own so they only need enough money for their door dash and funkopop. Loser fucks. My old neighbors have 3 sons over 20 that live in pj pants with anime stickers on their cars they didn't buy that their dad washes for them.

I know this is RDP and its full of ballers but lets be honest how many of yall are the ones buying Brittany her new $1.4M house in orchard hills because you want them to be close to grandma and grandpa. 💀 I see a ton of handouts here to full grown adult children and its wild. /poor guy observation
 

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Smart move.
Big name schools have turned into nothing more than predatory pirates. They're masters at polishing their reputations and burying how the disadvantage their tuition debt sets students (and parents) back in the real world.
Seems like the college degree these days is majoring in being a libtard...what happened to common sense?
 

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I'll just leave this here.

Seeking instant gratification = low emotional intelligence and lower IQ in most cases. These seem to be the same kids that didnt want to get their drivers license at 16 and grow up. I think most of what we're talking about here in this thread is the affect side of a flawed spoiled upbringing. I had a bit of an argument with our daughter over her having to pay for her car insurance next month when she gets her license. "Her friends dont have to pay that". My response is tough shit. Do your friends parents want to pay yours? I had to remind her that this is for her and she has to prioritize what she needs to spend her money on. Never hear her complain about a $60 shirt.. Tough love = best love. In fact the parents just giving in to their kids demands are the example the kids are following. So many want to be the cool parents they taint their kids reality.

Agreed. My 28 yr old son is kicking ass growing our contractor business, that I've had for 30 years & he's tripled the size in just the few he's been really involved, & my 26 yr old son goes to the hospital at 3:45 am everyday (this month anyway) to make rounds as he interns to be a neuro surgeon which will take another 7 years to fully achieve.

My oldest was a shitshow in college & somehow pulled his head out of his ass when he left. That seems like some luck there, because he should be dead or living in a trailer park the way he was heading. Just sayin'
 
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